Play Pretend, Reality Check
Eye opening, reality check.
Would you like to know exactly how your children perceive you as a parent?? PLAY PRETEND.
Play that they are you and you are them, do it periodically for 1 week at different times of the day; lunch time, bath time, bed time… I switched the bed time story for play and allowed my daughter to pretend to be me and she decided to “read” our favourite story to us, I say “read” because Camila doesn’t read yet but she has memorized the book we often do. She “reads” it to us exactly the same way I read it to them. When we play pretend she tries to speak and act like me, she is five, Luca is two and a half and also tries to act like mom, dad, our dog Mika and sometimes like Cat boy (pj mask) or a boy named Gabe from a Disney cartoon, and although he is still too young to really show me how he perceives us, playing pretend is one of his favourite things to do.
Watching them play pretend has been lovely but some things have been hard to watch, specially when through their play, I’ve realized there are things I do that I am not so impressed about, nothing alarming but definitely an eye opening opportunity to make changes.
Camila has told me several times during our play time that she is working on her phone and I have to wait or whenever she knows we will be playing that she is me, she puts a lot of effort in making sure she has all her props to play the part to the best of her ability and these are a cell phone and a computer…
I am a stay at home mother that owns a business, I have to get things done and work on my phone throughout the day but I definitely need to work harder to allocate specific times to do work or social media and others to just be present as a stay at home mom with regular house hold distractions.
This situation got me thinking different ways to create a happy balance while being a stay at home mom and a home business owner.
I’m now consciously trying to focus 100% on whatever activity I take on. If It’s play time, I will play without a phone around, if it’s work time, I need to teach them to understand and respect the time and work space that I’ve chosen.
Reality Check, Although hard, I am grateful to have an opportunity to look at myself from their perspective. I understand that our kids mirror many of our actions and learn by example, this has made me try to be on my best behaviour and step up my game for me and my family, nobody is watching and judging, I don’t have a reality show or a social worker observing my parenting but I have the most important audience, my kids. I need to perform my best part yet and that is; being the best version of myself. I don’t want perfect, I want honest and true while being vulnerable and allowing them to know my best and maybe my worst since they are with me 24/7. I need them to understand that parenting is very hard and it’s a daily challenge and I hope that with my blogging they can understand in a few years what and why things happened. It helps me stay accountable of my actions and pay attention to the little things that matter. They will eventually have an opinion of their own about me and I hope it’s kind and loving.
When I started to blog, I was motivated by documenting day to day moments, motherhood, life, happiness, struggles, anything that I consider worth sharing, a public diary. I want my kids to know about us in 10, 20, 30 years from now. Today I am alive and have the blessing to write about life, my life, One day at a time.
Aliser R. Glez
I am Aliser, art lover and owner of Smallprint. I create custom silver pieces & host quarterly tea parties to celebrate mothers and daugthers in communities across Alberta. Reach out if you'd like to host one.